A New Kind of Mom

This past Christmas, Hal and I got to spend timesoccer mom. The horror! The horror! When did
with some of our favorite people in the world,my battle cry change from, "I am woman hear
Owen and Jodi Egerton. Just their names aloneme roar!" to "I am mother, watch me bore!"?
are cool, don't you think? Owen is an old collegeAs Owen and Jodi showed us around the town I
buddy of Hal's. Well, buddy doesn't quite describeused to know, I felt myself tighten. How could
Owen. "Pet" might be a better word. Owen usedthese brilliant, strange, curious people find anything
to live in a VW van while he was just out ofinteresting in me anymore? I not only enjoy vanilla
college and writing his first novel, Marshall Hollenzerlatte, I AM vanilla latte! It was then that the
is Driving, but I digress.words of the great poet, Dylan Thomas flashed
Owen and Jodi are this amazingly quirky andbefore my mind.
funny couple who live in Austin, Texas. They met"Do not go gentle into that good night.
while both working on a comedy improv teamRage, Rage against the dying of the light!"
and they are ridiculously in love. We spent theThomas was right. Even though the end may be
weekend with them recently and theyinevitable, I must go down fighting. I must resist
reintroduced us to world we had almost forgottenthe tractor beam of suburbia and all of its
ever really existed. A world full of Jazz clubs andnumbing paraphernalia. I knew then what I must
late night pancake stops. Of laughter late in thedo. I must rise up and boldly call out others just
night and early into the morning. Of philosophicallike me.
talks over lingering cups of coffee. Real coffee.Oh, yes, there are others. You just have to look
The kind that holds up your spoon once you stopin the right places. They lurk in the classics section
stirring. The kind that Captain Quackenbush'sof Barnes and Noble, carrying a copy of Dr. Phil's
Café used to make when I was in collegelatest self-help blather as a decoy in case their
at UT-Austin.daughter's girl-scout leader turns up around the
Quack's was wonderful. On any given night, atcorner. You can see the desperation in their eyes
any given time, you could find anything there.as they try to follow the conversations of other
Cozy couples lounging in the corner, desperatemothers at playgrounds about which preschool
students poring over notes, wannabe streetprogram offers the most mental stimulation for
messiahs hailing the rapture, and one heck of atheir precocious geniuses.
cup of joe. There was a bookstore of sortsI will form a new kind of mom. Our motto will be,
attached to the café where you could"They may take away our free-time,but they will
borrow books on any subject imaginable andnever take our freedom!"
peruse its pages while some local kid casuallyWe will not resign ourselves to scrap-booking
strummed his guitar on the makeshift stage. Itclubs and Bunko nights as our sole source of
was really something.sisterhood. We will refuse to throw our full selves
I used to live at Quack's. I used to readinto the lives of our children. We, instead, will have
philosophy. I used to be hungry for knowledge. Ilives of our own!
used to see live music, even if it was bad. I usedAs shocking as it may be at first to the soccer
to. I used to. Now, my days are filled withmom legions, we will strive to set them free
attending practices and checking homework. Ifrom the tedious existence that binds them to
spend more time in my minivan than I evertheir babes. Instead of merely settling for
thought possible, driving to birthday parties forrepulsive reality TV, we will venture downtown to
kids I don't even really know.see real theatre. The ultimate reality shows - live
Don't get me wrong, I love my life. I have anentertainment, art, music, CULTURE!!!!! We will
adoring husband, two beautiful children, and aschedule time alone doing only adult activities.
quaint, brick house with a fenced-in backyard. IDuring such time, no talk of children's
live just down the street from a nice shoppingaccomplishments or interior decorating feats of
center with a Super WalMart where I can go tostrength will be allowed. We will resolve never
find anything I could ever want. I can even driveagain to send out those annoyingly chipper
through the Starbucks next door for a VanillaChristmas update letters that self-servingly gloat
Latte on the way home. And then it hits me like aabout our harmonious families. We will again
dirty load of laundry. I only go to chainexperience life as it was meant to be lived. With
restaurants. My subdivision actually has a whitepassion! With vigor! With real coffee!!! Yes, as a
picket fence. Adventure is wondering if tonight'ssign of sisterhood and solidarity, we will say no to
CSI episode will be new or a rerun. People actuallythe siren call of Starbucks. We will hunt and we
refer to me as "Hannah's Mom". It is official. IWILL find a coffee shop like Quack's. Owen and
have become one. I am a minivan driving,Jodi will be so proud. Now, get out of my
cell-phone wearing, bland, boring, suburbaniteway…I've got carpool in 10 minutes.